If you’ve been in a long-term relationship before, you know it’s not uncommon to lose that initial spark you had during the honeymoon phase. And while plenty of perks come with the progression of a partnership—for one thing, you probably know your significant other’s body inside and out—after some time has passed, you might need to put in a little extra work to keep that romantic spark alive, especially in the bedroom.
Maybe you and your partner have a tried-and-true sex routine, but even that comfortability can land you in a rut with enough repetition. Luckily, you can revive your romance simply by trying different sex positions that give ample opportunities for extra kissing, touching, whispering, and eye contact.
But before jumping into a new coital configuration, it’s important to be open and honest about your sexual needs. “People think ‘The One’ will read your mind—that is a myth,” says Carol Queen, PhD, staff sexologist at Good Vibrations, a sex shop chain with locations in California and Massachusetts.
Being intentional in setting the mood can also go a long way. Something as simple as setting time aside in your calendar, lighting candles, wearing what makes you feel best, and taking a relaxing bath before sex can all make a world of difference in the romance department, according to Wendasha Jenkins Hall, PhD, a sex educator and researcher based in Atlanta, Georgia.
Meet the Experts:
Carol Queen, PhD is the staff sexologist at Good Vibrations, a sex shop chain with locations in California and Massachusetts, and the curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum in San Francisco.
Wendasha Jenkins Hall PhD is an educator, speaker, sex and relationships consultant, and founder of The Sensible Sexpert.
And both experts emphasize the importance of looking at the space you plan on getting intimate in from an outsider’s perspective. “Sometimes it’s hard to get in the mood if you see a pile of laundry sitting in the corner, or if you see a kid’s toy or a dog toy laying about the room,” says Hall.
Once you’ve checked all those boxes, It’s time to get the good stuff. Try these 20 expert-recommended sex positions for an unforgettable romantic experience: